Don’t be “one of those Christians” and bash folks who don’t have your beliefs. I love God. He’s my best friend, my mentor, my confidant, my keeper, my daddy. He isn’t yours? Cool. You’re missing out on an unconditional love but you’re still a human being with thoughts and feelings.
We, as this 2018 society, have this idea that if it’s not how we live, it must be wrong. This isn’t so. There are so many ways to skin a cat (why is this even a saying, gag). In my daily life, I have Christian friends. I have friends that don’t believe in anything. I have friends that believe in themselves above everything else. Within all of those categories, everyone believes differently. You can even read the Bible and see differently than someone else. I believe God knows what he is doing. I believe that God put me on this earth to be his hands and feet and that it isn’t my responsibility to make people believe in God. It’s my responsibility to show everyone love. If someone I run into doesn’t believe in God, they may just believe in what MY love for God “looks like”. They will see the goodness in what I (mostly) do. So instead of bashing you for what isn’t even my business, I will just love ya. Deal?
Galatians 5:22-23
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
I have been a part of a split family for almost 10 years. I have been a part of another split family for 5 years. I was a step parent and my children have a step mom (or live in female parent). One day when I marry again for the second time, there will be a whole other dimension.
I can tell you 10 years in, I have made more mistakes than I can count and I have learned so much.
I remember when I was pregnant with my son, I was in turmoil. All I knew is I had lived one heck of a crazy life up until I saw that extra line on the urine-soaked stick. My life finally had direction. Nothing I had ever done up to that point mattered anymore. I was going to be a mommy no matter who wanted to stop it. I went to my mother’s work and a coworker of hers told me:
“Don’t ever use your child as a tool against their father!”
I respect that coworker and I respected what they had said. I made a promise to do the best I could to never do that. My son turns 10 this year. 10!!!!!! And no matter the struggles that his father and I have endured, I have never said a cross word to my son and I try my hardest to follow my mentor’s thoughts. My son thinks his father is cool beans and I love that he does.
My daughter will turn 7 this year. Her father and I divorced when she was 3. She loves her daddy with all of her heart. I will never ever get in the way of that. Her father and I do not see eye to eye but I know he loves her and that’s enough for me.
My children will grow up and no matter what they feel, they can never say I was disrespectful about their daddy.
My children have more family than they know what to do with. My children never go without anything. For this, I am blessed.
There are times when we all want to choke each other. Society has this idea that splitting makes everything go away. NO SILLY, think on it. You couldn’t agree on life together, so now you want to agree on life, separately?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? That is why you have to take yourself out of the equation. Divorce (with children) just means you take your PERSONAL feelings out of the raising of your children. You do that and you will be successful in co-parenting!!!!
“Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.” –Life’s Little Instruction Book
We all run low on it. We all want more of it. We all feel we give too much. We all take it for granted. We all lose track of it. T.I.M.E.
“I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo.
“So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
We run through our day. Literally running. Scheduling. Balancing. At the end of the day we just want time to stop. I beg for some way to rest for eternity. But that’s not life. so…….what to do, what to do??
1. Make time for what you want.
2. Don’t procrastinate.
3. Don’t place blame.
4. Give yourself credit.
5. Keep a calendar.
I find it comical that I had every intention of completing this approximately a week ago. I’m still trying to FIND THE TIME to work on it. Life is so silly. HHHHAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!! ( I say this rocking back and forth in the corner). I tell you what, if it wasn’t for my almost OCD tendencies in organizing my calendar, I’m not sure I would be half as sane as I am right this very second. Emphasis on HALF!
Ephesians 5:15-16 “Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.”
Find time you guys. Find time to be you. Find time to make your life easier. Find time to do everything in your power to not end up saying, I’m sorry, I ran out of time. It’s 2018, it’s never going to be this speed ever again, and the years ARE NOT waiting on YOU.
“I have no faith in human perfectibility. I think that human exertion will have no appreciable effect upon humanity. Man is now only more active – not more happy – nor more wise, than he was 6000 years ago.”
― Edgar Allan Poe
It’s exhausting to live our lives. You know what is even more exhausting, attempting to live others lives!
Do you ever catch yourself judging another’s life?
Here you are, living your life the best you know how, when you notice someone else is doing their life wrong….ever been in this situation? It’s so hard to focus on your life and every choice you make. It’s even harder to worry about others’ choices.
God knows this about us. Which is why he gives us guidance in several ways.
God asks love of us. He want us to love Him, one another and ourselves. That’s it.
“Jesus chose you to be his friend. Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted YOU, in order to bring Him praise.” Romans 15:7
WOW. God accepts me? How I am right now! And all he asks is that we accept others?
Ok. Deal.
“Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us ENCOURAGE one another. “Hebrews 10:24-25
So, instead of worrying about what someone else is doing that we don’t like, we need to focus on encouraging each other in love and good deeds.
God wants us to sharpen each other. (Proverbs 27:17) .
He wants us all to be better, together.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!“Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
We can complain all day about how the other lives. Or we can be thankful that for some reason,they have crossed our paths. They may not be on the same page now, but at one time, even if only for a moment, they were.
“Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD.” Leviticus 19:18
I sit back and think on life sometimes, well, I’m a female, so a lot of times. Who are we kidding? EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. MOMENT. HOUR. SECOND…..
Where was I?
This world is huge. 7.5 billion strong. That’s a whole lot of folks. That is a whole lot of chances to give out nice and to accept nice. I wake up every morning and immediately become determined to be nice to people. Some days I have to beg my inner bad attitude to stay focused. Some days I have to calm myself down because I will give everyone, everything and end up with nothing.
Life is about moderation. I’ve said it before. I’ll say it again. Nothing is no good. Too much is way too much. Something. Now that’s where it’s at.
I am surrounded by some of the most understanding, caring, people. I have good family, friends and co workers. I even have clients and people at places of business that I enjoy to see often. I want, at the end of the day, for those people to be thankful they know me. I don’t want them to ever wish they had never met me.
I’m what they call an introverted extravert. I thoroughly enjoy people. I thoroughly enjoy quiet though. Conversation can sometimes cause me anxiety. Sometimes just having someone near is enough (5 love languages-quality time).
“Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind.
“Pooh!” he whispered.
“Yes, Piglet?”
“Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw. “I just wanted to be sure of you.”
― A.A. Milne, The House at Pooh Corner
I work day in and day out in the midst of people’s live’s shattering. No matter the circumstances, if I am in your life, you don’t want me there. I completely get it. I wouldn’t want anyone rummaging through all of my life choices that led to this point, either. But here we are. Trust me when I say this, we are all one bad choice from being right where you are. Breathe. Accept what life has been up until this very point. Sit down with me. Let those guards down that you have built so high because of past hurt and present trouble. Let me in. I AM here to help. Believe it or not, it is your decision. But I’m not going anywhere.
We have this hope for our soul; firm and secure. Hebrews 6:19.
This trip was a huge success. I caught myself saying over and over-I’m so comfy. I’m so relaxed. I’m so happy.
Life is so busy. Life can be overwhelming at times. No, lets be honest… Life is ALWAYS overwhelming. It just depends on where you are on your cycle and how hard you are being hit at once. I can tell you that I’ve had some serious struggles the past year. Anywhere from physical health to mental health. This trip was a rebirth of the beautiful side of life. I didn’t have to worry about schedules. I didn’t have to worry about clients. I didn’t have to monitor the kids. I was able to just be free; to just be me.
We arrive at the site Friday afternoon. We unpack all of our camp gear. We go to the lookout tower where we can see who knows how many miles away. This. This is what I have been yearning for. Not a single building in site. Just nature. Just God’s handy work. How blessed am I that I get to experience this moment. Thank you so much, God, for making nature beautiful. We climbed up several flights of hand crafted stone steps. This was fine. What WASN’T fine was that KK decided after making it all the way to the top, that she wasn’t going to travel back down the same way. She refused. So here I am, holding her like an infant, carrying her down the several flights of stairs her cute little legs had gone up a few minutes earlier. It’s fine, KK. Even this silly moment can’t take this smile away.
We set up the campsite to our liking. We used dryer lint and hay to start a fire and cedar wood that we brought from home. We are real survivalists. 🙂 Now it’s time for my skills to shine. Cooking over an open fire excites me. This is a chance to see what gourmet food creations I can get away with without the comfort of a kitchen. Friday nights meal. Mustard wings and taters. MMM. MMM. We end up crawling into the tent at an early time. We listen to the ever so loud and proud of their conversations -college student-neighbors for a bit then slip off into slumber. We awake to a chilly morning. I feel rejuvenated. No alarm. No chaos. Just awake and rested. We make scrambled eggs and sausage. We boiled eggs for later. We have fresh pressed German coffee. I forgot the creamer and sugar. This is a HUGE problem. But I use a Reese’s Egg I had in the Pilot for a touch of flavor. It definitely wasn’t pleasant, but I made do.
If you aren’t from the south, you don’t know what pollen snow is. We had a full blown pollen snow covering while we were there. Picture light snow. Beautiful and white, dusting everything it touches. Now imagine you’re in a nightmare created by satan himself. Everywhere you saw snow is now allergy inducing pollen, green and almost sticky. Wave after wave of flower semen dust. Sneeze after sniffle after clearing your throat after coughing with a touch of itchy watery eyes. I digress.
We made a small trek into the woods around camp. There was a small hiking trail. We circled back to the site and took a nap in the tent. That’s right people. A NAP. It was wonderful. We slowly woke up from our siesta just in time for lunch. We made hot dogs. We relaxed in the hammock and listened to the wind howl across the campsite. Here I am, comfy, peaceful, happy. Up and at it again, we decide to make our way into the Talladega Forrest. We decide to follow a trail that leads to several waterfalls. This was a short-lived adventure. We follow what we think is the trail, only to find it leads into a small campsite with an outhouse and right back to where we parked. We were perturbed. We get back into the pollen covered vehicle and make our way to another spot in hopes of an adventure. We find another spot that appears to have promising trails. We pull up and park. I get the bright idea to venture off into the forest without shoes on. My fella calls me a hippy. I smile in agreeance. They have information upon entering it about safety and that it’s 2800 acres SO DON’T BE STUPID. Hydrate. Keep your animals on a leash. Don’t venture off into the wilderness without a compass and light. If you get lost, don’t panic, etc. How exciting!!!!!! We start our journey. KK doesn’t like being on the leash. I don’t like it for her, but rules are rules. We followed the Pinhoti Trail. It’s March so there’s not much greenery. Everything is bare from the winter. The rocks are my favorite. There’s small rocks that have been chipped away and HUGE boulders that are part of the mountain. I love all the rocks. We made it a couple miles and decided to make our way back to the Pilot. We got back to the campsite just before dark. Time for Chefista Pat Pat to make her way. This time, pork tenderloin, squash, zucchini, onion, a sliver of butter and a little lemon juice. All wrapped up in a cute foil packet. This meal was to die for!!!! We shared a packet with a loner camper neighbor of ours. He was extremely grateful. He had said that he and his brother were supposed to be camping but due to the sketchy weather from where his brother lived and the campsite, the brother decided not to go. He was such a pleasant neighbor to have. We checked the weather for the rest of the weekend. Rain. Not storms. But rain. Rain at a campsite is NEVER a good time. We did the best we could to secure all of our belongings in the Pilot and tent. We put a tarp over the tent. We giggled at the college neighbors who were having the time of their lives not knowing rain would be coming soon, probably not caring even if they did. We poked around the fire pit, laid in the hammock, relaxed. Then went to bed. THE TARP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! There was no relaxation, peace and comfy. NONE. That tarp made the most ridiculous noises EVER!!!!!!!!!! I had taken a melatonin AND a Benadryl just in case my allergies were going to keep me up all night. THE TARP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That thing had me picturing some obnoxious giant in the sky rustling around in his loud stupid bed for the entire stupid night. There was nothing I could do to drown out the sound. It was awful. The wind would finally die down and I would get settled in and BAM there the tarp went again. I wish you could have heard it but trust me when I say…….nails on a chalkboard, neighbor dogs howling at 2am, poison oak and ivy on the inside bends of your knees and elbows in the heat of summer……………… times infinity. I don’t know if it was the repetitiveness of the crinkling. Whatever it was, it made for a rough Saturday night. The rain itself wasn’t too bad. We stayed dry. The college neighbors panicked a bit when it first hit but shortly after, fell asleep. We woke up Sunday morning to a very misty, foggy morning. My fella came to the rescue and used his shirt as a filter to make his best attempt at coffee since our French press bit the dust. Literally. We had oatmeal and bacon for breakfast. We decided to go ahead and pack up since everything was wet and soggy. We could get back in ample time to unpack, relax and grieve the returning to reality of bliss. The college neighbors were hacking up all types of funk. I reached in my pilot and offered them some sinus medication. You would have thought I handed them diplomas. They were very thankful. Our quiet neighbor packed up and left and the college neighbors followed suit, also. We all had a great time in our own ways. That’s the beauty of humans. We all have our very own experiences. We all have our own ways of enjoying life. Mine isn’t yours. We will never fully understand each others’ ways. And that’s quite alright. Abenteuer ihren Weg!!! (Adventure your way)
Thank you, God, for giving me eyesight to experience the AWE! For touch, taste, smell and hearing. May I be reminded of the small blessings in my weekdays and the bigger blessings in my weekends!!!
Cheaha State Park. Tallest point in Alabama. This is part of the Talladega Forrest.Fire Safety. When you leave the campsite, always put out your flame. We used water then dirt.No one said you have to sacrifice good food when camping. This is a “hobo dinner”. Its a pork loin, squash, zucchini, onion and a spritz of lemon. AMAZING!!!!
We went hiking in the Talladega Forrest. We were UNSUCCESSFUL in finding the waterfalls they speak of but I gained some mad confidence when I trekked the forrest BAREFOOT. My fella says I’m a hippy….I say so??? 🙂He has an ENO. I have about a 1/6 of the cost off brand and still oh so stylish hammock. These are a must when camping.First night was a success. We were warming up water for our coffee and cracking the eggs for breakfast. Notice I’m sitting on the rocks by the fire and my Queen Warrior is in the chair. We all have our places, don’t we?I try to camp where there is an electric outlet. All for convenience. That’s Christmas lights around a tree, tube lights leading into the tent and a small space heater for a snuggly night’s rest.Mustard chicken wings with a delicious smokey flavor and perfectly cooked baked potatoes. People pay big bucks for this type cuisine.We did have a casualty this trip though. My French press. My saving grace. She lived a good life full of camping successes. This was the windiest trip I have ever experienced and she gave us her last sip of fresh german coffee Saturday morning. She shattered on the ground from what I like to call a G-force wind gust.
My KK. Such a diva. Konigin Krieger “Queen Warrior” Guarding her sleeping bag and Pringles.
It’s Friday. Not just any Friday. It’s the first day of my first camping trip of 2018. Camping runs deep in my blood. Not RV camping. Tent camping. We went when I was little. So many memories. The pain of walking on embers that had left the fire. Having blisters the rest of the trip but not caring because of how much fun we were having. Staring at the fire. No, staring INTO the fire and into the vaste world of natural peace. The quick snacks. The easy going, no schedule, life. This, my friends, is my Heaven on earth. No concrete. No asphalt. No tall buildings. No 18 wheelers. No bosses. No procedures. Just the fresh smell of Life.
Every year I try to go on many trips. I’ve beach camped. I’ve cavern camped. I’ve camped in our backyard. Wherever we land, we enjoy it so much. I’m trying to camp at all of the state parks I can. I’m hitting up Alabama first due to proximity. I’ve dabbled in Tennessee, Georgia and Florida. Not only is there beautiful surroundings but they have wonderful amenities like bath stalls and running water and (sometimes) an electric outlet. This is my uptown camping!!!! State parks are safe for families. Most everyone has a sense of togetherness at the same time as respecting privacy.
Anywhoooooooo. No kids on this trip. Just my pup and my man. This will be our first camping experience together, also. We’ve decided on Cheaha State Park. It has the tallest point in Alabama. I have my hiking boots, yummy food, snuggly blankets and sleeping bags. Last but not least, a blow up mattress and melatonin. I’ve learned that when you hit 30s, its extremely important to be able to sleep comfortably. I’m ready. Stay tuned!!!!! And have a glorious weekend!! 🌡️⛺🌞🌜⭐☄️🔥🏕️🌎
The greatest and most feared part of parenting…….when you get caught parenting little yous in the way you would have never been able to stand as a little you.
As I sit and watch my sneaky children be sneaky, I can’t help but remember all of the times I snuck around my parents. I. Must. Remain. Constant. Being sneaky means you’re smart. So I’m thankful my children are smart. I will prune the clandestine behaviors out. I will feed the clever, crafty side. My children will learn how to be leaders and will learn how to maneuver life without being dishonest. That is my main goal. My children will grow into helpful, thoughtful, kind adults. When someone says their name, honorable thoughts of them will follow. Until then, I will have to be a parent and not a friend and explain why we can’t give all of the stuffed animals hair cuts and hide the evidence under the bed. I will have to be a parent and not a friend when after telling my son to put up his clothes as a typical chore, I find ALL of his clothes hidden under a blanket in his closet. Several. Loads. Of. Clothes. I will have to stand firm when I have told my children several times to be nice to each other and they continue to be vindictive and come up with some of the most brilliant ways to get each other into trouble. Parents don’t have eyes in the back of their heads because they want to. Parents have eyes in the back of their heads because they HAVE to, for fear of their sanity. But we parents do it out of love. Every bit of our parenting, even the hard stuff, is through love.
“Educate your children to self-control, to the habit of holding passion and prejudice and evil tendencies subject to an upright and reasoning will, and you have done much to abolish misery from their future and crimes from society.”
― Benjamin Franklin